Direct Funerals

Bespoke Funerals in Essex

Death and loss are universal experiences, but every individual is unique. In some circumstances, a strictly traditional funeral simply doesn’t reflect the personality of the deceased or fulfil the needs of those saying goodbye. If this is the case for you, choosing a bespoke funeral can help you create a distinctive and personalised event. 

We have years of experience in helping people organise bespoke funerals, and can support you through the process with guidance and ideas. 

What are bespoke funerals?

Bespoke funerals are designed around the wishes of the deceased and their family, and can encompass all kinds of themes, activities and dress codes. Over the last few decades, our ideas around death have begun to change, and funerals are increasingly reflecting people’s desire to celebrate the life a person lived rather than just mourn their loss.

The Benefits of Bespoke Funerals


Here are our answers to some of the most frequently asked questions regarding bespoke funerals, but if you would like to find out more, don’t hesitate to contact a member of our team. 

Bespoke funerals aren’t necessarily an alternative to traditional funerals, as they may still contain many familiar customs. They are instead a way to choose which traditions you like, leave out the ones you don’t, and create your own customs in accordance with what feels right for you.

Within reason – anything you want! Bespoke funerals can be intricate or simple, traditional or modern, and include ideas that are completely unique to you. They can be created at the behest of the person who has passed, or by their family as they hope to honour them in a way that celebrates their life.

Some examples of things you can do to create a bespoke funeral include choosing an unusual venue for the service or wake (such as a beautiful garden, beloved pub or football ground), outlining a dress code (such as bright colours or fancy dress) and creating beautiful memorials, such as blowing bubbles, releasing balloons or putting on fireworks.

Depending on what you want to arrange, bespoke funerals can either be cheaper than a traditional funeral or more expensive. Costs involving the cremation or burial itself tend to be a constant across different types of funeral, but the sum of other factors such as venue prices, funeral keepsakes and floral tributes will vary on a case-by-case basis.

There are lots of ways to personalise a funeral, a bespoke funerals give you the opportunity to incorporate the hobbies, passions and character of your dearly departed in a meaningful and poignant way. For example, if they were a nature lover, you may pick nature as a theme and choose a woodland burial, or if they were larger than life, you may arrange a service and wake that reflects their flamboyant personality.

It is certainly possible to organise a party or ‘celebration of life’ memorial in favour of a traditional funeral. If you want your own funeral or the funeral of a loved one to be a celebration that doesn’t include a funeral service, you can choose a direct or unattended funeral, and organise a memorial celebration in it’s stead.

Our Funeral Homes

Hilldene Funeral Home

Hilldene (Harold Hill)

64 Chippenham Road,
Harold Hill,
Essex RM3 8HX.

Hainault Funeral Home

Hainault & Chigwell

45 New North Road,
Essex IG6 2UE.

Harold Wood Funeral Home

Harold Wood

43 Station Road, 
Harold Wood, 
Essex RM3 0BS.

Collier Row Funeral Home

Collier Row

309 Collier Row Lane, 
Collier Row, 
Essex RM5 3ND.