The answer to whether pets can be part of a funeral depends on particular circumstances, but it is certainly possible to arrange a pet-friendly ceremony if that is your preference. In order to do so, however, you will need to consider your choice of venue, ask key questions in advance, and be sensitive to your guests.
These are all points of planning you can discuss with your funeral director, but for a more general view, we explore the subject below.
Across generations, lifestyles and cultures, one thing that many human beings have in common is that they are devoted to their pets. In 2023, 53% of UK adults were reported to own a pet, (with 29% owning a dog, 24% a cat and 2% a rabbit). What’s more, surveys suggest that 73% of this number view their pet as one of their best friends.
This fondness for our animals is far from a modern indulgence. Throughout history, certain animals have been honoured, loved and revered, evidenced by discoveries such as thoughtful dog burials near human grave sites that date back 10,000 years. And who can forget the Egyptians, who mummified and interred their cats in tombs to accompany them to the afterlife, or had them buried in dedicated pet cemeteries – with evidence to suggest they had been cared for through injury and old age.
It is therefore no surprise that, in the modern world, a person may want a beloved pet to be part of their funeral, or for a family to feel supported by the presence of their dog during the proceedings. While there are many practical reasons that might limit the involvement of animals as we are laid to rest (for example, cats tend to prefer to be left at home), there are ways to include our furry friends when we say goodbye.
Can my dog be involved in my funeral?
Our canine companions offer unconditional love and friendship, and as such, the bond between a dog and its owner is often profound. It is far from unusual for people to consider their pooch to be an integral part of the family, and whether it is a person’s last wishes or the preference of their loved ones, having dogs by their side on their final journey is something they value deeply.
It is important to be aware, if this applies to you, that not every religious building and crematorium welcomes dogs for a variety of understandable reasons. It is therefore important to ascertain in advance the policy of the organisation in question. You shouldn’t be discouraged, however, as there are many places that are happy to facilitate the presence of a well-behaved dog.
For example, in a letter to the Guardian in response to an article on “Celebrations of Life”, Rev Ruth Cartwright explained how her church was happy to welcome dogs in a funeral service, and some are even able to arrange for a dog to walk in front of a hearse in a funeral procession. Some dog-sitting organisations are also happy to escort a dog to a funeral, so the family and congregation are comforted by their presence but do not need to attend to them during the service.
In certain circumstances, people can also arrange a fully dog-friendly funeral, where mourners are encouraged to bring their own dog along. It is advisable to bear in mind, however, that some people are less comfortable around dogs than others, and if you are a guest at a funeral, always gain the family’s permission before bringing your dog to the service or wake.
Other ways to include your pet in the proceedings
If it isn’t possible or practical to have your pet at a funeral service, you may consider having them attend the wake, or come to meet everyone when they leave the service. You can also ensure they are there in spirit by including photos of your loved one and their pet together, or by mentioning the strong bond they shared in a tribute. It may also be possible to include items such as a cat’s collar in the hearse before cremation or burial, to provide a symbolic link.
Can you be buried with your pet in the UK?
There aren’t any specific laws regarding pet burial in the UK, but there are many regulations that aim to reduce contamination and the risk of disease, and broadly speaking, being buried with a pet is unlikely to be straightforward. This is because the majority of burial sites (such as traditional graveyards and crematoria) will refuse permission for pets to be buried in family plots, and it is not possible in any case for an animal to be buried in the same place as their owner if they have not been cremated.
It may be the case, however, that at a woodland burial site, it will be possible to have the ashes of a pet laid to rest alongside you, although you will need permission from the local council or private landowner.
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